What is it about me that just attracts liars and people who don’t have the fucking slightest idea about ‘respect’ ? Is it too much to ask for an HONEST roommate? A roommate who knows how to respect your things and space? It’s like de ja vu.
My former roommate was a liar big time. I helped her and gave her space and consideration and she screwed me. Yeah, stole my fucking SSN, used it, and lied about it to my face. Then she started getting hurt and indignant because I’m paranoid and can’t trust her. Duh. Loser. So she left / I kicked her out. It kinda went both ways.
So now here I thought I found a ”decent” roomie. I should’ve have known. Another fucking liar. I tried to ignore his “little” lies (just as I tried to ignore my ex-roomies ‘little’ lies) but it bothered me that he lies for no reason at all. He lies about things that nobody even gives a shit. Pathological liar. sheesh. I tried so hard but it was like every week I’d catch him lying, or he’d eventually tell me he lied about this and that. I mean, WTH dude?
And then there’s the case of him not wanting to get a fucking checkbook because he didn’t want to pay for the checkbook. Seriously??? So, he deposits his rent to my account and I give the check to the office. And then, he’s supposed to sign the lease with me because nobody’s supposed to stay in the place for over 2 weeks without signing a lease. There is of course an application fee of 35$ (background check, etc). So we went to the leasing office and he didn’t have a cashier’s check. He told the clerk he’ll be back with the check and sign the new lease (the clerk told me to temporarily renew my lease for 6 months until he gets back and can sign the lease for both of us). Guess what. He never came back. Never signed the lease.
I explained to him before that I just want him to sign the lease to conform with the guidelines in the apartment, but that he can leave even before 6 months. Gawd. I know why he didn’t come back. He didn’t want to pay 35$. Unbelievable.
So the way I see it, he basically gave up his rights to the apartment. I mean, he didn’t want to take any responsibility. So any person who has an ounce of common sense and respect, knowing that it’s NOT his apartment, would have at least have the decency to ASK me if it’s okay that he has a guest (his wife) coming in 5 days. He just told me his wife is coming and is staying in MY apartment for 3 weeks. He never asked my permission. If he signed the damn lease, if he pays his rent share with his own fucking check, I wouldn’t have a say. But no, it’s ONLY MY NAME that’s on the lease, so it’s MY apartment. Prick.
When he moved in, he asked to use my kitchen stuff, etc. I said okay, no big deal. I don’t mind as long as he actually TAKES CARE OF IT. Who in their right mind would use a FORK to cook scrambled eggs? It’ll damage the teflon. So I very nicely and politely asked him to use one of the cooking utensils, although it was too late becaue the pan was full of scratches.
Then came his “guest”. Now, I don’t know what he told his wife about the situation but with the way she’s been acting around, it’s as if I have to be the one who have to adjust that she’s around. WTF bitch? You’re using my plates, forks, pans, EVERYTTHING in the kitchen, and you have the nerve to act like that? You’re using my fucking salt, vinegar, etc. You’re fucking moron of a husband is so CHEAP he wouldn’t even buy salt, considering he cooks almost every night. You used my rice (which by the way, when you arrived was full, and was EMPTY before three weeks!) and you’re very respectul husband didn’t have the decency to ask me if it’s okay that you also use my fucking rice. All this I endured because you’re a “guest”. Not my guest. His. But still, I kept my distance, confined myself to the living room and my bedroom.
But here’s the deal breaker: You, who fucking borrows your husband’s roommates stuff, didn’t even have the decency and common sense to be considerate considering your are BORROWING. WTF were you doing? Collecting dirty dishes in his bedroom? I bought those plates, cups, etc so I won’t have to keep washing one every time I’m going to use it. I bought those so that after I use one, I’d stick it in the dishwasher, and then run the dishwasher once I’m out of plates, cups, etc. I have 7 plates total. There I was, waking up and finding ZERO cups to use in the cupboard. WTF? And why is your husband keeping one of my cups in his side of the cupboard? Is he renting it? Did he even ask me if it’s okay to keep that cup there as if it’s HIS? I mean, OMG, people. Your manners, or lack of it for that matter, are just absolutely unbelievable. If I were your parent, I’d be ashamed.
After she left, I used one of my pans to cook an egg and a portion of the egg STUCK on it even with oil. When I checked the pan, half of it was missing the teflon. Worse, there were DEEP SCRATCHES, as if some moron had the bright idea to use a NON STICK FRYING PAN as a cutting board! I. Am. Just. Truly. Utterly. Speechless. I messaged my roommate to “please” buy his own kitchen stuff from now on. Which means, he can’t use my stuff anymore.
I’ve just had it. I can’t change a person. I can’t teach somebody common sense or manners. I’m just waiting for my rommate to tell me he’s leaving. Or maybe I’ll just kick him out. He didn’t sign the lease afterall so no issue there. I had it with roommates. Three strikes and I don’t ever want to go through this again with another liar, with somebody who has obviously no common sense or manners. Gawd.
Idiots. Oh, and did I mention that he GOSSIPS? Seriously. He’s supposed to be a GUY. If he didn’t have a wife, I’d have sworn he’s fucking gay. But then again, lots of gay people have kids and are married. It’s just unnerving how he gossips and I deeply regret confiding in him some things. He was okay on the first 2 months… or at least I tried to ignore those signs for as long as I could. Turned out I can only ignore it for 2 months and then it’ll just get worse and worse. Gawd. Karma will take care of them.
Ohhh… and here’s one more thing. The guy actually goes to church EVERY WEEK! Wow…seriously. He’s acting all “holy” and then he has this shitty attitude. Drama Queen no less. Isn’t it in the ten commandments (ninth commandment) —- Thou shall not bear false witness (lie)? Add hypocrite to his “endearing” qualities.
I truly am just…speechless at what I’ve gotten myself into.